A newborn is soft and tender,
A crone, hard and stiff.
Plants and animals, in life, are supple and succulent;
In death, withered and dry.
So softness and tenderness are attributes of life,
And hardness and stiffness, attributes of death.
Just as a sapless tree will split and decay
So an inflexible force will meet defeat;
The hard and mighty lie beneath the ground
While the tender and weak dance on the breeze above.-Lao Tzu
How much do u love your emotions all of them good and bad?
Regardless of how you answer the above question know that my goal is to help you understand the value in why you should love the full range of your emotions and even more so understand where they come from and how perspective shift can help u to do the following
- Use your emotions instead of be used by them.
- Understand yourself more so that you can dissolve conflict with other peoples emotions.
For the collective majority emotions have become something that appears at first to be a huge contributor to our pain but one of the reocuuring things I have learned is that no matter what may be happening or what u might be feeling their is an oppositeI know that you understand there is always a different side of things but how do u get to the good in the bad ,how do u see the love in situations, the joy in the sadness?
By acknowledging that your emotions are based in either on of two forms
- That there are form based emotions and ego based ones.
- Just like unchecked thoughts unchecked emotions can cause un needed pain in your life and take your energy.
Healing begins with AWARENESS of your thoughts and feelings. You must drive a dissociation between you and whatever situation or person you are dealing with. YOU ARE NOT THE SITUATION it does not define you. It is something that u are a part of but it is not part of you. By viewing the world through this lense you remain objective and you can experience your feelings as a guide to either what others are going thru or as how u should respond to a situation. Allow yourself to build trust in how you feel for the stronger your connection to your feelings and the thoughts that generate them. The stronger your connection to your inter spirit will be .
The key to creating the dis associaton is found in silencing your thoughts as I have suggested before thru meditation,yoga,sitting quietly. Do anything that allows you to stop thinking long enough to watch your self in a situation and in case your wondering what this feels like it is when you make a choice and u hear a voice tell your self this is a bad idea or you feel something in the pit of your stomach that says this doesn't seem right.
Sometimes that is enough to stop the action your taking sometimes your ignore it but because your not use to understanding it you write it off as being a coincidence when in fact it is the way your mind should work oin a regular basis. That is the best way I can describe my experience with being aware so it may vary depending on your emotions and your connection to them. Let give a few examples of how to use your emotions in a beneficial way.
You are in a situation where you are being tempted by someone or something else and your looking for an excuse to do the right thing. You get a feeling that says this is a bad idea.
You become good at recognizing your own feelings that when you meet others you can identify what they may be feeling and can counter it with what the emotion calls for.
Anger/Love,Understanding,Acceptance
Loneliness/Companionship,Listening,Acceptance of Self
Used/Reenforced Value
The list goes on but when you can become the observer in your own life and know what feelings your having,how to manage them, then you can see the person in the situation meet their needs and then help them if you can in the situation.
There is always an opposite to what you feel and it is simply a choice of how to get to a point where you choose the option that places you back in control of your life because if your not the driving force of your own life then who is ?
Until My Next Post
Namaste & God Bless
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