Love Bucket

Is Your Love Bucket Empty

I am sitting in the MVD the other day and there is a mother,father,and their young daughter sitting next to me. The daughter was at least 7 or 8 years old and she was being restless as to be expected it is the MVD and I overheard her say to her father.

Daddy is your love bucket empty ?

I thought it was cute when I heard that and jotted it down,however as I mediated and allowed my mind to wander on this thought I realized how true of a statement this is for some people.

Stephen Covey in his highly fabulous and extremely useful book the 7 Habits Of Highly Effective People he describes this as your emotional bank account and works just like any back account. You have to do things to invest or refill your love for others and yourself. If you were to look at your 5 closest relationships what would your answer be to this question?

What is my balance for my closest relationships ?

If it is something you don't know or if it is something that you don't like the answer to let's look at ways to start refilling and investing in our love buckets and bank accounts because there will be a day when you may need to withdraw from the bank or empty out some of the bucket. You need to make sure that you have enough left over to sustain the relationship because we know what happens when you empty the bucket or overdraw our account. In relationships this becomes resentment with a sense of feeling used and the other party not feeling like you have a true investment in the relationship.

The act of refilling however is simple and comes in many forms like the ones before.

• Remembering the other persons favorite things and giving them a magazine article, or sending them an email of something that reminded you of them.
• Leaving personal notes that let know you care or thanking them for something they did.
• Remembering to call and check in during the day.
• A nice gift because it is Wens day.
• Spending quality time with that person.
• Listening To Them
• Wanting More For Them Than You Do For Yourself
• Providing Encouragement

And the list could go on for days those are just a few examples of things that cost nothing but a fraction of time and have a huge ROI on your relationships. And that is the point how much is the other person truly worth to you and how much it is the investment worth to you ? See this is the one time where an investment pays off double for you. When you give to others the thing you give is given back to you by the universe.

When you are being love it is easy to make deposits and fill up your love bucket.

Do not want for anything when you can BE everything.

Until my next post

Namaste and God Bless.

Transformers

Freedom is the right of all sentient beings-Optimus Prime

Growing up I wanted to be Optimus Prime so bad I mean it was a genuine thing that meant a lot to me and I would run around screaming "Autobots Rollout" at the top of my lungs. Now that you all have that visual in your head (have fun with that). If you know me personally you you know how much I love Transformers and I mean love them I collect them,play with them, share my knowledge of them and more importantly they remind me the power of manifesting and that if you have a strong enough belief in something you can have it regardless of the situation. Let me tell you a story

Growing up I was a poor kid period and I am not talking about a little poor I am talking Christmas not coming this year poor. I learned that Santa didn't make it to my part of town consistently and it was just my mother that would supply my gifts ,bless her heart she did everything she could to make me the man I am today. I saw her work herself to the bone and it seemed that she could never make ends meet no matter how hard she tried. She was my first example of one of my life long values WORK HARDER than everyone else. Yet no matter how hard she tried she could not get me everything I wanted to which I became a custom to. I did not hold any resentment to her for it nor did I feel it was her fault. However I was still a child and longed for things a child would want so one Christmas I asked for the only toy I ever wanted a G1 Optimus Prime and to my disappointment for the reasons I just stated I was unable to have it.

That moment would be a turning point in my life because it was then that I decided that I would depend on no one to do anything for me I would become self reliant and I swore I would grow up one day and have my Optimus Prime.

Fast forward to a few years ago which was prior to me learning what I know about manifesting your dreams and the power of your thoughts I was at toys r us picking up a random gift for someone and there it was the toy that I had waited 20 years for sitting in front of me. I remember thinking what is the chance of that I bought it of course and I was delighted it was like I was thrust back into time and I got to be the kid that had wanted that toy so bad so many years earlier. Now had this been the only thing that happened with Optimus the story would stop here but it wasn't see the one I purchased was not the original it was a reissue and I know what most of you might say why was I being so picky I should have been grateful. I was grateful but still I wanted the original one and when I know what I what I truly want rarely do I ever believe I will not have it well about 4 months later I was talking about Transformers with a friend of mine and he mentioned in his words " I have a box full of those old ones from the 80's" that were in his garage gathering dust and offered them to me. To my surprise

That box contained not only the original G1prime that I wanted it had about 10-20 other figures that were rare and ones that I also had wanted growing up. They were all in pristine condition with original instructions and all the pieces. For anyone who collects toys knows this is unheard of.

At the time that it was all just random luck but now looking back on it honestly with all I have learned I don't believe that to be the case anymore I believe that it was supposed to happen just the way it did so that I could do exactly what I am doing with the information I discovered. The other piece of it is that I realized there was other things that Optimus Prime had to do with my enlightenment journey one of those being his belief that he stands for.

• He is positive and always looks to win even when the situation dictates otherwise maybe thats why they call him "Optimus"
• He stands for good and justice
• He believes that all humans and robots can share life and co exist that no one is greater than another.He sees the sameness in them
• He is a principle based leader who values others above himself.

The moral of the story is this

• I guess you can find a valuable message in anything if you truly look to see it.
• If you have a knowing about something an actually knowing regardless of anything else and at some point align with the universe you will see your knowing manifest
• There is never a timeline to the things that you know you want
• Who knows I might get my wish to be like optimus after all.

Until my next posting

Namaste & God Bless

Emotions

A newborn is soft and tender,

A crone, hard and stiff.

Plants and animals, in life, are supple and succulent;

In death, withered and dry.

So softness and tenderness are attributes of life,

And hardness and stiffness, attributes of death.

Just as a sapless tree will split and decay

So an inflexible force will meet defeat;

The hard and mighty lie beneath the ground

While the tender and weak dance on the breeze above.-Lao Tzu

How much do u love your emotions all of them good and bad?

Regardless of how you answer the above question know that my goal is to help you understand the value in why you should love the full range of your emotions and even more so understand where they come from and how perspective shift can help u to do the following

• Use your emotions instead of be used by them.
• Understand yourself more so that you can dissolve conflict with other peoples emotions.

For the collective majority emotions have become something that appears at first to be a huge contributor to our pain but one of the reocuuring things I have learned is that no matter what may be happening or what u might be feeling their is an oppositeI know that you understand there is always a different side of things but how do u get to the good in the bad ,how do u see the love in situations, the joy in the sadness?

By acknowledging that your emotions are based in either on of two forms

• That there are form based emotions and ego based ones.
• Just like unchecked thoughts unchecked emotions can cause un needed pain in your life and take your energy.

Healing begins with AWARENESS of your thoughts and feelings. You must drive a dissociation between you and whatever situation or person you are dealing with. YOU ARE NOT THE SITUATION it does not define you. It is something that u are a part of but it is not part of you. By viewing the world through this lense you remain objective and you can experience your feelings as a guide to either what others are going thru or as how u should respond to a situation. Allow yourself to build trust in how you feel for the stronger your connection to your feelings and the thoughts that generate them. The stronger your connection to your inter spirit will be .

The key to creating the dis associaton is found in silencing your thoughts as I have suggested before thru meditation,yoga,sitting quietly. Do anything that allows you to stop thinking long enough to watch your self in a situation and in case your wondering what this feels like it is when you make a choice and u hear a voice tell your self this is a bad idea or you feel something in the pit of your stomach that says this doesn't seem right.

Sometimes that is enough to stop the action your taking sometimes your ignore it but because your not use to understanding it you write it off as being a coincidence when in fact it is the way your mind should work oin a regular basis. That is the best way I can describe my experience with being aware so it may vary depending on your emotions and your connection to them. Let give a few examples of how to use your emotions in a beneficial way.

You are in a situation where you are being tempted by someone or something else and your looking for an excuse to do the right thing. You get a feeling that says this is a bad idea.

You become good at recognizing your own feelings that when you meet others you can identify what they may be feeling and can counter it with what the emotion calls for.

Anger/Love,Understanding,Acceptance

Loneliness/Companionship,Listening,Acceptance of Self

Used/Reenforced Value

The list goes on but when you can become the observer in your own life and know what feelings your having,how to manage them, then you can see the person in the situation meet their needs and then help them if you can in the situation.

There is always an opposite to what you feel and it is simply a choice of how to get to a point where you choose the option that places you back in control of your life because if your not the driving force of your own life then who is ?

Until My Next Post

Namaste & God Bless

What Love Could Be

I was listening to Rabbi Shmuley talk about the three types of love during an interview he was doing for Dr Deepak Chopra and the topic was about the future of love in our society the thoughts centered around the types of love that is needed within our own personal relationships. During the interview he stated that one of the main reasons that relationships tend to lose the spark that so often goes away after being to together for a long period of time.

In our society for the average relationships the longer you are together the more likely you are to have experienced the passion fizzle and if you haven't that is an amazing blessing. I would agree with the interview in the sense that there is a general assumption that you must sacrifice passion in a relationship but being a NLP (No Limit Person) I don't believe that at all. Now I am not in a relationship right now but trust me when I say that doesn't mean I don't know what I want and how to get there. So on that note here are some to key points from that interview.

His talks refer to men and women being fire and water and there needing to a blending of the two to soar above what is worldly and traditional. See until I started to take a journey towards my new goal of a adding no more pain to the world I searched for a partner someone who was an equal to me and could help me in my quest to build my wordly empire. This was my ultimate goal and I pushed hard to aquire it thru time and suffering but failed miserably in doing this I hurt other people thru lies,manipulation, and the use of opposites all in a effort to protect my ego. It was only thru my personal awaking that I could be open to receive the information that I now see and realize what I truly want for my personal relationships versus what I once that I should have. Those models are listed below.

The River Model which means love is like a partnership a business deal so to speak. In this model you are looking for another version of you someone who meets your requirements it reminds me of interviewing someone for a job. In ancient times this is what dynasties use to do in order increase there power. This is where at one point where I wanted to be in my relationships because I thought it was safe and would ensure a good relationship.

The Kettle Model means you can compliment each other. And coexist together like a kettle holding water over a flame. You work well together and truly compliment one another but there is nothing that makes the relationship pop it is doing what it should do moving right along. This is where the general population lives.

The Bird Model means that you counteract one another and use each other to soar above it all that you accept one another as you are not what u want each other to be. You compliment talents and use them together and rise above much like a bird who uses all its tools to fly. This is the ideal of where a relationship could be. I have decided that this is what I want out of my relationship.

The last part of the discussion was that men need the fullness of a women's love to balance out their linear thought and self. The compassion of a women's love is something that helps to keep things in balance and as a society we need to connect further to this idea and allow our connection to compassion to shine thru. I sincerely believe this is true and as we do our personal relationships can grow and as a society we can change.

As the bible teaches us it all starts with and ends with love.

Until My Next Posting

Namaste & God Bless

Remember How To Be A Child.

I am sitting in the lunch room with my son the other day and I am watching him interact with the other kids and as a means to show him affection I leaned over and told him. Son remember to enjoy the moments you have today and gave him a kiss.

He then gave me the look that as parents we all dread and you know what it is the one where they glare at you like mom or dad what are you talking about ? Then it hit me that what I had said means nothing to him because kids already live that way they don't worry about the future, and barely know the past exist. They are truly an example of living in the present. I mean have you ever met a child that said man how am I gonna pay the mortgage, or how are we gonna eat, I have to pick up stuff from the cleaners, etc. Of course not and we tell them they shouldn't have to yet we don't free ourselves from it when we can.

As parents we sometimes get caught up in being the teacher but the first rule of learning is always being open to learn and we tend to forget that with our children and how they can teach us so much. As adults we tend to become a big ball of our perceptions about people and situations instead of using perception in the way it was meant to be used it became the thing that blocks us from appreciating all life has to offer.

Now I am not saying all perceptions are wrong there is truly some purpose for their use but we are not suppose to let them be the ruler of our lives however it is easy to forget this and therefore we forget what our children have yet to learn and that is this. The only moment we have is right now and making that now moment the best minute to minute day to day will become the life we one day look back on. That the moment your making right now in 10 min will be your past and 5 minutes before it happened was your future. Growing up I heard the following statement "Dom don't grow up to fast you have your whole life to be an adult" I didn't know what that meant until now and honestly I have to disagree with you mom there are parts of my childhood I am happy to reconnect with. This entry is an example of one of them. See you don't have to give up being a child you have to give up childish behaviors and that makes it ok to focus on the now and add some playfulness to this thing called life.

So I encourage all of you to take a few moments today and be a kid again your soul will appreciate you for it and you may find you like what you see when you take a moment to connect with yourself.

Until my next post

Namaste and God Bless

Managing Reistance

Recently I have taken on a very interesting challenge I have made a personal commitment to minimizing and removing additional pain from my life and the lives of those that I interact with. This decision is part of a greater picture. To most people what I just said is a very daunting challenge and I totally understand why it feels impossible because I understand the level of thinking that the collective majority resides in. I use to reside their too and I never felt to bad about it because it is not until you realize their is a better way, a different perspective can you begin to look for a different way.

How does something like this happen?

It happens with pain once you reach a certain level of suffering or pain depending on your word choice you snap something in you gives way and forms a decision making point and a choice will be made that will change how you view life forever. This can be either a positive or negative choice which is the subject of an entirely different conversation but a choice is made.

So knowing that you have to have a enough pain in your life to change anything also know that is not the only way to create change you can use your awareness and just make a choice which sounds so easy right ? It isn't not even when you know you should. Understand there is nothing wrong with any of this or with you and how you feel about it. If you are looking for more balance in your life though this is one way of getting that.

So here is what I am doing to stop adding to the cycle of pain that is in my life.

Acceptance Of Life Situations

Oneness

Expanding My Personal Understanding of Me.

When you accept life situations for what they are which is a situation you are having in your life and allow them to be just that a situation you can learn and gather information from it removes resistance and allows for you to approach things from a place of understand and clarity which is needed to create a positive outcome. You also eliminate energy loss caused by resisting what is. The second concept of oneness is simple everyone is the same we may have different forms but what is inside is all the same and while some people use emotions and reactions that you may not they still have the same emotions and reactions that you have and when you remove the vail that separates you from them you allow compassion in. The last piece is the hardest of the three it is understanding why and what causes you to react the way you do to people,and life situations. See our reactions to things are a great indicator of our own personal fears,insecurities,issues, etc. It is usually a reflection of our own conflict about a situation the more you know why you are feeling the way you do when you react to people or things the easier it will be to remove the resistance that blocks the love,compassion. With resistance gone so shall pain be removed and your more likely to make choices that generate as minimal pain as possible.

I plan on none of this being easy but I feel that it is a step in the direction of making my life better and making the lives of those around me better and that makes it all worth it.

Until my next post

Namaste, God Bless

Living The Dream

This is a great video about a Gary Vaynerchuk who decided to just live the dream. I have to say that this is the best explanation of how to use the web to take your life and your business to the next level. His perspective is innovative and motivating.He is really the next big thing and seems like a nice guy to boot. So the question I leave you with is what can you start today to change the world,your life, and what's holding you back. If not today when ?