Remember Your Friend

I am the place where u are supposed to go when u r in need.

I am the place where u are supposed to know that safety lies.

I am the place where there is no judgment and pride.

Love and appreciation lingers here. In your mind I am far but in your heart I am near.

In times of need and great disdain you sit at my table to release your pain.

I hold u close with a strong embrace but wonder why u have to hurt to visit my place.

I am here when you are full of joy and would like to share in that too.

I long to know you and every emotion that is yours, but it is hard when there are so many doors.

Blocking all the love I have to provide.

Though it may be hard I will never leave your side for I am your spirit that lives inside.

So never look out only look in, open the doors fully to me and let the healing begin.

Allow me to introduce myself.

Hello my name is spirit your eternal friend.

Transformers

Freedom is the right of all sentient beings-Optimus Prime

Growing up I wanted to be Optimus Prime so bad I mean it was a genuine thing that meant a lot to me and I would run around screaming "Autobots Rollout" at the top of my lungs. Now that you all have that visual in your head (have fun with that). If you know me personally you you know how much I love Transformers and I mean love them I collect them,play with them, share my knowledge of them and more importantly they remind me the power of manifesting and that if you have a strong enough belief in something you can have it regardless of the situation. Let me tell you a story

Growing up I was a poor kid period and I am not talking about a little poor I am talking Christmas not coming this year poor. I learned that Santa didn't make it to my part of town consistently and it was just my mother that would supply my gifts ,bless her heart she did everything she could to make me the man I am today. I saw her work herself to the bone and it seemed that she could never make ends meet no matter how hard she tried. She was my first example of one of my life long values WORK HARDER than everyone else. Yet no matter how hard she tried she could not get me everything I wanted to which I became a custom to. I did not hold any resentment to her for it nor did I feel it was her fault. However I was still a child and longed for things a child would want so one Christmas I asked for the only toy I ever wanted a G1 Optimus Prime and to my disappointment for the reasons I just stated I was unable to have it.

That moment would be a turning point in my life because it was then that I decided that I would depend on no one to do anything for me I would become self reliant and I swore I would grow up one day and have my Optimus Prime.

Fast forward to a few years ago which was prior to me learning what I know about manifesting your dreams and the power of your thoughts I was at toys r us picking up a random gift for someone and there it was the toy that I had waited 20 years for sitting in front of me. I remember thinking what is the chance of that I bought it of course and I was delighted it was like I was thrust back into time and I got to be the kid that had wanted that toy so bad so many years earlier. Now had this been the only thing that happened with Optimus the story would stop here but it wasn't see the one I purchased was not the original it was a reissue and I know what most of you might say why was I being so picky I should have been grateful. I was grateful but still I wanted the original one and when I know what I what I truly want rarely do I ever believe I will not have it well about 4 months later I was talking about Transformers with a friend of mine and he mentioned in his words " I have a box full of those old ones from the 80's" that were in his garage gathering dust and offered them to me. To my surprise

That box contained not only the original G1prime that I wanted it had about 10-20 other figures that were rare and ones that I also had wanted growing up. They were all in pristine condition with original instructions and all the pieces. For anyone who collects toys knows this is unheard of.

At the time that it was all just random luck but now looking back on it honestly with all I have learned I don't believe that to be the case anymore I believe that it was supposed to happen just the way it did so that I could do exactly what I am doing with the information I discovered. The other piece of it is that I realized there was other things that Optimus Prime had to do with my enlightenment journey one of those being his belief that he stands for.

• He is positive and always looks to win even when the situation dictates otherwise maybe thats why they call him "Optimus"
• He stands for good and justice
• He believes that all humans and robots can share life and co exist that no one is greater than another.He sees the sameness in them
• He is a principle based leader who values others above himself.

The moral of the story is this

• I guess you can find a valuable message in anything if you truly look to see it.
• If you have a knowing about something an actually knowing regardless of anything else and at some point align with the universe you will see your knowing manifest
• There is never a timeline to the things that you know you want
• Who knows I might get my wish to be like optimus after all.

Until my next posting

Namaste & God Bless

Emotions

A newborn is soft and tender,

A crone, hard and stiff.

Plants and animals, in life, are supple and succulent;

In death, withered and dry.

So softness and tenderness are attributes of life,

And hardness and stiffness, attributes of death.

Just as a sapless tree will split and decay

So an inflexible force will meet defeat;

The hard and mighty lie beneath the ground

While the tender and weak dance on the breeze above.-Lao Tzu

How much do u love your emotions all of them good and bad?

Regardless of how you answer the above question know that my goal is to help you understand the value in why you should love the full range of your emotions and even more so understand where they come from and how perspective shift can help u to do the following

• Use your emotions instead of be used by them.
• Understand yourself more so that you can dissolve conflict with other peoples emotions.

For the collective majority emotions have become something that appears at first to be a huge contributor to our pain but one of the reocuuring things I have learned is that no matter what may be happening or what u might be feeling their is an oppositeI know that you understand there is always a different side of things but how do u get to the good in the bad ,how do u see the love in situations, the joy in the sadness?

By acknowledging that your emotions are based in either on of two forms

• That there are form based emotions and ego based ones.
• Just like unchecked thoughts unchecked emotions can cause un needed pain in your life and take your energy.

Healing begins with AWARENESS of your thoughts and feelings. You must drive a dissociation between you and whatever situation or person you are dealing with. YOU ARE NOT THE SITUATION it does not define you. It is something that u are a part of but it is not part of you. By viewing the world through this lense you remain objective and you can experience your feelings as a guide to either what others are going thru or as how u should respond to a situation. Allow yourself to build trust in how you feel for the stronger your connection to your feelings and the thoughts that generate them. The stronger your connection to your inter spirit will be .

The key to creating the dis associaton is found in silencing your thoughts as I have suggested before thru meditation,yoga,sitting quietly. Do anything that allows you to stop thinking long enough to watch your self in a situation and in case your wondering what this feels like it is when you make a choice and u hear a voice tell your self this is a bad idea or you feel something in the pit of your stomach that says this doesn't seem right.

Sometimes that is enough to stop the action your taking sometimes your ignore it but because your not use to understanding it you write it off as being a coincidence when in fact it is the way your mind should work oin a regular basis. That is the best way I can describe my experience with being aware so it may vary depending on your emotions and your connection to them. Let give a few examples of how to use your emotions in a beneficial way.

You are in a situation where you are being tempted by someone or something else and your looking for an excuse to do the right thing. You get a feeling that says this is a bad idea.

You become good at recognizing your own feelings that when you meet others you can identify what they may be feeling and can counter it with what the emotion calls for.

Anger/Love,Understanding,Acceptance

Loneliness/Companionship,Listening,Acceptance of Self

Used/Reenforced Value

The list goes on but when you can become the observer in your own life and know what feelings your having,how to manage them, then you can see the person in the situation meet their needs and then help them if you can in the situation.

There is always an opposite to what you feel and it is simply a choice of how to get to a point where you choose the option that places you back in control of your life because if your not the driving force of your own life then who is ?

Until My Next Post

Namaste & God Bless

Our Deepest Fear

Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate.

Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure.

It is our light, not our darkness that most frightens us. We ask ourselves, Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, fabulous? Actually, who are you not to be? You are a child of God. Your playing small does not serve the world. There is nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won't feel insecure around you. We are all meant to shine, as children do. We were born to make manifest the glory of God that is within us. It's not just in some of us; it's in everyone. And as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same. As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others-Marianne Willimason

When I read the quote above I felt that it makes for a great conversation and reminder that within each one of us there lies dormant a power greater than anything we can rationalize within our daily lives. The ability to truly be and do anything that we want, to be anything we want , to create the life you deserve. Fear interrupts action and the flow of life wastes energy,and it makes people doubt any of what I previously said. It becomes something that limits you and holds you back from allowing yourself to do and be anything you want.

What would you be or what could you do if removed fear from your life ?

How many new relationships could you form or have the opportunity to experience if your weren't afraid?

What would your future be if you allowed yourself to have a healthy detachment from limiting fear?

I know that if your like me and most people are a like the biggest hurdle to overcome when it comes to fear is our internal dialogue and your ego if your dialogue is consistently telling that you are not good enough, you don't deserve that, you can't do that, what will everyone say ? Then your ego will suspend your action because it enjoys keeping you blinded by the truth which is that God is inside you and shares the power of the universe with you. That on the other side of all those limitations is a world of no limitations beyond the ones that you put on yourself All that is required to access this is

Awareness- In simple terms this means paying attention to your thoughts,actions, and life. Most people are own autopilot letting life happen and thinking some cosmic force is conspiring to hold them back from greatness. I will tell having gone thru this experience that is true there is a cosmic force alright and it will push you towards your dreams the moment you align with it until then it will give you nothing more than what you believe your worth.

Silence-It widens the gap between between the ego centered mind and your spirit. God lives in the silence thats where your access to all that is within lies. Yet when was the last time you set alone and consciously let your mind be quite. Here is an interesting yet fine example of fear. There is a good chance that silence for most people doesn't happen because they are afraid of what will be left when the ideal mind chatter stops. I encourage you to try it to find out. Mediation,running,yoga,sitting quietly in a room are just a few examples of silent exercises.

Thoughts-This one is key because it is the soundtrack of your life the way you see and believe things to be. If you have corrupt unsure, limiting,and self defeating thoughts then you have lost before you start one none of the above matters if you reinforce it by poor quality thoughts. Your entire life is about making the best choices that you know how to make at any given moment. Learning to reframe everything in your mind, refusing limiting thoughts to exist in the space between your ears, to not build your worth in anything or anyone other than you. All a thought that leads to a choice that leads to an action that then creates a result and results then become your life.

How differently would your thoughts be if you started to see yourself the way God does ?

The answer to above question is probably a lot different than what it is right now. You are a divine being don't allow fear to stop you from being all that you are. YOU are worth it, YOU are beautiful, YOU are stronger than you know, YOU can be,do,and have all the things that you deserve. YOU can change the world by changing the way you see and live YOUR world. Don't die with your music in YOUR heart stand forth and allow YOUR beauty and power to shine forth.

Until my next posting

Namaste & God Bless

Shift Of Responseability

I was at lunch yesterday with myself which before I continue into my story was in itself a blissful experience enjoying a meal with me and myself. However as I was saying I am at lunch and I look over to see the young worker cleaning the tables after each person finished, and I have to say he was doing his job with such pride it was easy to see that he took pride in what he did. In watching him I wanted to know how I could serve him and when I searched for the answer I easily found it. I could clean my own table a simple gift of letting him know that he could have a break to chat or whatever. So I approached him with this idea and he responded to me " That's ok its my job" which I expected him to say that and I responded with well it is my response ability to clean up after myself.

Then it hit me that in life it happens to often that responsibility that should be ours gets shifted to someone else and for some that means even responsibilities for their own life. Then when the shift has been made an awful thing happens blame is placed on the other party for failing to live up to our expectations. That is like me yelling at the young man who cleaned my table yesterday for not cleaning it to my standards when I could have done it myself. This is seen mostly in close personal relationships which I will discuss in a separate posting.

I don't know why this concept seemed to hit me so hard and as I expanded on it so many other things played into it like the reason we have rules are to shift responsibility back to people who choose to do something other than what they know to be morally correct. It is the reason we have supervisors at our jobs to make sure we are held accountable which means to shift responsibility back to the owner. For me it I see how the simplicity of life is lost in this fact because I have truly believe that the universe has design and structure even if we weren't given the rules for it. The goodness of your heart lies in your ability to connect with your soul. This is the golden thread of life and if that was a belief that was truly held by the collective majority we could live a balanced and harmonious life which is what we all strive for anyway on a individual level. Here is the clincher we are all looking for the same thing and it could be easily obtained together yet for some the choice to struggle against what is and the denial that we are as one prevents this concept.

I encourage you to take time in your life to look for areas where you can take more of your responsibility back. You can't do anything about what life will deal you for that is already decided but the power of choice is yours. The power to be able to respond (response-ability) to it all is one of the keys to enjoying a fulfilling and balanced life so don't give that away for it is a precious gift that is designed to help you towards the balance and happiness you so desire.

Until My Next Posting

Namaste & God Bless

The Lonely Traveler

"You gain strength, courage and confidence by every experience in which you really stop to look fear in the face. You are able to say to yourself, "I have lived through this horror. I can take the next thing that comes along." You must do the thing you think you cannot do."- Eleanor Roosevelt

The above quote was so powerful for me when I first read it I was in awe of the way fear can be such a wonderful learning experience yet we often overlook it due to the amount of pain and uncertainty that is generated in us by the way we see it. However when you look at the great thinkers the people I like to think of as lonely travelers on this journey called life this was almost born into them. When they looked at situations they saw the same as everyone else but as the quote verbalized they saw something greater than just the fear they saw what was on the other side of the hill.

See in my journey I have come to see life as a long country road. The kind of road you see in the movies that has nothing but a vast amount of open space around it with a long road ahead and an even longer one behind. As we travel this road we go thru different cites some small and simple, some large and complex and require more time than we may have to spend with them. No what we end up in a space where we are alone with nothing but the road ahead and as we travel of course we encounter bad weather the storms are gonna come just like the seasons are sure to because nature is right with her understanding of the flow of life.

It is when we are at our worst our field of perception changes to see only a few things the storm we are in and the long road ahead and the fact that it is getting late and darkness is going to set in. Yet a few shifts in our perception could change it forever and this is what a lonely traveler does with almost a natural instinct they see what we see but they see more like they see in widescreen. They see that by accepting the journey for what it is and not what they feel it should be and by surrendering to life it is easier to weather the storms and that the reward for doing so can be just over that next hill. So they embrace and enjoy the journey for what it is and when this is done courage seems to flow out of them like a river and the concept of fear becomes part of the journey not the focus of it.

In our own lives we spend a large amount of time walking in the crowd with everyone elbow to elbow and neck to neck. Today you can make a choice to walk another road and experience a different road in life. You can start by taking short walks and increasing them as you become one with the process but allow yourself to love the walk that is life for there is no pleasure sweeter than that of a great journey traveled.

Until my next post

Namaste & God Bless

Life Is Random

This is an awesome talk about using the web in a way that is often neglected in our form dominated lifestyles.

Ironman Update# 13

Where is the time going it is hard to believe I have been at this for the last 13 weeks and some. I have to say that it has been one of the single most life changing events that I have ever had and it has become a way of life for me. But it didn't start out that way. It started out as most things in my life have been in the past and that is in an addiction. Yes I said addiction that is such a strong word but i think it is appropriate and I think that most people deal with it more than they know.

See it is the nature of our ego that it attaches itself to worldly things,things that mean something only to the form in a means to protect itself from extinction because it is scared and as I rode my bike for 30 miles this week or ran my 20 miles I realized that even that originally when I started this whole Ironman it was to feed my ego but it has transmuted into something much greater.

See in training this week I have learned that I don't need to train for my ego I don't need to be addicted to anything other than the love of my spirit our spirit. Like many before me I truly never new there was anything more than the ego I have protected for many years. I was blessed with a strong understanding of myself and have felt conflict for many years between my form and spirit and my understanding of how to marry those two. My whole life I have worked to protect my ego from destruction from the world because I felt that if I lost it I would lose myself. See I knew that if I ran a triathlon that would satisfy my egos need to be special that it would be large enough. If I did this or that I would satisfy a need but on my journey to living an enlightened life I have learned that feeding my ego is a meal that will never end a bill in which I can never truly pay the cost.

I learned that by being attached to things of only just this world of just my form I had lost touch with knowing the things that equal true satisfaction I longed so desperately for the things that make up my soul,my humanity, me and once I truly was able to grasp this concept it was only then I could shift from a nature of addictiveness to one that is choosing to use my works for greater purposes like becoming further grounded in the present moment or as examples to the world around me of the limitless possibilities that are presented when you start to connect and work with the world versus forcing the world to work with you.

I walk away from this week of training physically better as well as mentally better.

My suggestion from this is simple look at your life and find your addiction and be honest about it, remember it may not be what you want to hear at first, and know that you are not whatever it is that you may find and use it as indicator that maybe you have lost connection with the part of you that connects you to the oneness of it all and allow yourself to break free of the mental hold it has if you do the simple act of being aware it will help to start the healing process towards release of the addictions that slightly stop us from being great.

Until my next post

Namaste & God Bless

Managing Reistance

Recently I have taken on a very interesting challenge I have made a personal commitment to minimizing and removing additional pain from my life and the lives of those that I interact with. This decision is part of a greater picture. To most people what I just said is a very daunting challenge and I totally understand why it feels impossible because I understand the level of thinking that the collective majority resides in. I use to reside their too and I never felt to bad about it because it is not until you realize their is a better way, a different perspective can you begin to look for a different way.

How does something like this happen?

It happens with pain once you reach a certain level of suffering or pain depending on your word choice you snap something in you gives way and forms a decision making point and a choice will be made that will change how you view life forever. This can be either a positive or negative choice which is the subject of an entirely different conversation but a choice is made.

So knowing that you have to have a enough pain in your life to change anything also know that is not the only way to create change you can use your awareness and just make a choice which sounds so easy right ? It isn't not even when you know you should. Understand there is nothing wrong with any of this or with you and how you feel about it. If you are looking for more balance in your life though this is one way of getting that.

So here is what I am doing to stop adding to the cycle of pain that is in my life.

Acceptance Of Life Situations

Oneness

Expanding My Personal Understanding of Me.

When you accept life situations for what they are which is a situation you are having in your life and allow them to be just that a situation you can learn and gather information from it removes resistance and allows for you to approach things from a place of understand and clarity which is needed to create a positive outcome. You also eliminate energy loss caused by resisting what is. The second concept of oneness is simple everyone is the same we may have different forms but what is inside is all the same and while some people use emotions and reactions that you may not they still have the same emotions and reactions that you have and when you remove the vail that separates you from them you allow compassion in. The last piece is the hardest of the three it is understanding why and what causes you to react the way you do to people,and life situations. See our reactions to things are a great indicator of our own personal fears,insecurities,issues, etc. It is usually a reflection of our own conflict about a situation the more you know why you are feeling the way you do when you react to people or things the easier it will be to remove the resistance that blocks the love,compassion. With resistance gone so shall pain be removed and your more likely to make choices that generate as minimal pain as possible.

I plan on none of this being easy but I feel that it is a step in the direction of making my life better and making the lives of those around me better and that makes it all worth it.

Until my next post

Namaste, God Bless

Ironman Update #11

It has been 11 weeks since I started training for my triathlon and they have been a blur when I look back at them I would not have imagined that I would be where I am. This weeks lessons that I have learned are really simple.

I need to reward myself during the process of things so that I can enjoy the process more instead of just waiting till the end of the event.

You one day wake up and realize that you are stronger than when you started or your better than you thought you could be.

The first point was pointed out to me by neighbor who I met. During a cool 3 hr conversation that we had she pointed out to me that it would be wise to reward myself sooner in my process for example like right now because I made it to week 11. So I will take her advice and as I go thru my process I will make sure to include a reward process I mean why not. I think that we don't reward ourselves enough. If you think of the principles of motivation one of the things that is a key staple is making sure to dangle a carrot that is going to make completing the task more enjoyable.

Well what would happen if you dangled a carrot for yourself what kind of pleasure would u get internally ?

You could get use to and like completing things which makes you much more productive.

The last thing I learned this week is how the rate of change works and why so many people lose all they work for when striving forward on a goal. They quit right before they can feel their break through occur. See in the prior two weeks I have been bored and not motivated when training while continued to train it was feeling more like a process than a experience. Then this week happened and I saw how much I have grown because my power out has increased and my distance to run has gotten stronger. Now had I quit when I felt overwhelmed this would have been missed. So my advice to everyone is simple keep going and don't stop when setting your goals till you have reached them.

Until my next post God Bless and Good Luck

CANI

Today was one of those days that come along ever so often. You know them they are the days when you feel that you are getting things accomplished ,creating the results you choose and it is all happening without you even knowing it. Anytime we have a day like this or a few days like this it is so empowering that there is an inital need to relax or rest on our laurels.

That is where our senses take over and we must fight or natural tendency to enjoy comfort. One way of doing this is by changing our frame of focus from working for comfort to working for CANI. Now I do need to let you all know this is not my word nor did I create it. It came from Anthony Robbins who is my unoffical mentor. His perspective is one that seems to resonate with me. (much like I hope mine does for you)The word means Constient and Neverending Improvement and I can tell there is tremendous value in having this be your frame of reference to come from.

We live in a time when the only thing that is constant is change. The problem is how many people like change ? Well in my interactions I would say not many at all and there energy and focus becomes the fact that they don't want to change and resistance is built around this idea. What would happen if that resistance became an opportunity for CANI? Well my guess would be the result I see in my life less stress,growth, and opportunity at every corner. Isn't that a better perspective to have? I can only speak from my experience and I would say that it is a great one because with all the information that we get in our life it can feel overwhelming so why not get an advantage and even the playing field by making use of all the stuff that is gonna come your way anyway.

What is the worst that could happen it might work and make your life better ?

Start off small take a day and focus on learning and improving and see if it feels better than when you just go thru feeling inundated with life.

Change you rules for life and change your life.

Until my next post God Bless and Good Luck.

Ironman Update #3

So I am three weeks into this and this is the hardest of the 3 for me and not because of the training. See it does not feel new anymore so the routine is starting to get boring. Now I know right out the gate this is bad so I started to change my state by asking better questions till my frame about the situation is back on track where it needs to be. Afterwards I was not satisfied with just refocusing I wanted to know why the feeling even occurred in the first place and the answer I found was simple I am physically getting use to the training this week,because it was a repeat of week one and knowing that made me lose some interest because I had already done what was being asked of me before and it was not knew. Well I took that a step further and instead of getting excited by the challenge of a new week (by the way week four may have me reconsidering this) I decided to make the situation that I saw as boring interesting by making it more challenging. I pushed myself to go further faster & just a little harder than I needed to. The result was a much more empowering experience I also had to remember not to go to hard as the program was designed allow some recovery. So it was this real time adjustments that I made this week that truly made all the difference this week and helped me learn more about my training and myself.

Until next post God Bless Amen

God Lives Within You

We have always heard this statement and it bounces off our ears like a basketball to the ground. Yesterday I learned what this statement feels like and what it means and I am going to share this with you. You have to believe in yourself and have a clear understanding of the power of your mind. God placed in all of us the power to manifest anything we dream of. However years of doubt and lack of this being taught in a practical application hinders most from the true power of their mind but in order to reach your true potential this has to happen first. If your mind is strong and you manage it well ( I have eluded to how to do this in previous posts) that is not enough you will still need a few key ingredients like attitude. You have to have a positive attitude because that will serve as your filter to the world if all u see is the worst your mind will strongly support that and even create a reason to justify it. Attitude is the tool that takes experiences and turns them into the information we need to be successful. So if you condition your mind to control your thoughts,create an attitude of learning from every action that comes to u then you are own your way. This however is not enough not yet because once u master these types of fundamentals a desire will be created to share this with the world. This is where you start to realize the power of giving out of love with no expectation. Which I have come to realize I personally enjoy and you can too. If u think u don't have anything to give think again, and have faith that your will be rewarded for giving. This is the other ingredient FAITH. The belief that all of the things I discussed will work. I mean I know they do I have tested it and I believe in it. I believe that the power of god within me gives me the strength to live my life to the fullest the way I want to. Your God Is Within You Waiting For You. To Unleash Your Potential. Until my next post God Bless & Good Luck.

Mind Control Get Some

Title sounds a bit scary huh? Well it isn't actually not as much as one would believe. I learn the most important lesson that I can pass along about being afraid of anything.

Knowledge is one of the main eliminators of fear meaning we fear what we don't know based off of our preconceptions well when you challenge that with knowledge you eliminate part of the fear and in some cases all of it.

The reason I started off this article in this way is simple the majority of people have a fear of their mind and don't even know it they walk around feeling powerless to the world that is around them. I am here to debunk that myth you have all the power you will ever need right in-between your ears. The problem is not that you don't have what you need it is that you don't know how to control your state of mind on your demand it happens to you daily but from outside sources.

One of the easiest reference points for this is advertising is it a coincidence that certain products make you feel a advertiser certain way? No but most likely until now this has not been pointed out to you. Advertisers know more about the way your brain works than you do and actually use that to their advantage,but what if you became your own advertiser?

For an example of exactly how your brain can focus and manifest things I want you to do the following

• Close your eyes (after reading the rest of the instructions)

• Open your eyes and find 10 red things in the room your in.

• Now do the same thing with the colors blue and green.

So you should now know at least your brain can help you to see the things you want if you direct it to. So let's make this a little more practical by giving you some information on how your brain filters things. The main source for filtering is based of two concepts pleasure and pain. At the root of all of your choices are those motives. You are looking to get pleasure and avoid pain.

Lastly you have to perform key actions that will result in the state of mind you are in at any given moment. If your sad there are factors that go into making you sad as it is not a disease you catch. When was the last time someone told you that they were having a case of sadness ? and it should be cleared in a week or so. they haven't because that doesn't make sense to do that.

So here are three things to better mind control

• The power of focus you can change how you feel by changing what you focus on.

• Pleasure and Pain are always your underling motives for why you choose to do something

• What actions go into your state of mind at any given moment?

Learn these and you will learn how to change your mood by using the right set of actions. To learn more about the topic I discussed today check out the following links here and here.

Until next post God Bless and Good Luck

Happy Memorial Day

I wanted to first start off by saying thank you to men,women,and families that serve and protect our county,and unless you have gone thru it or been a part of it your sacrifice can not be known. None the less it is respected and on this day We Salute You. As for the rest of us we can look at the memory of our fallen heroes and truely honor them by doing one thing and one thing only. Living Your Life To It's Fullest For some us that is exactly what we do we take everything that comes across our plate and use it to make positive, forward movement. Then there are others that take a different approach and do not find,choose not to look, or just ignore there potential. Until they reach a point so bad that they choose to give up or they have a break thru and allow themselves to take advantage of all the benefits that exist because of the people who laid there lives down before them just so they could have the freedom to choose and decide. Like everything else there is no wrong or right I am simply saying if your going to use your freedom to choose use it wisely and make better choices. It is our responsability to honor that daily and when you do that you send a real message to the familys who have scarficed the people they love. You let them know that it was worth it and that people care. They say actions speak a thousand words well if you feel you might not be living to your fullest potiental take a moment and ask your self some of the sample questions below to get leverage and start being the person you know you could be,should be, or would be if you just let yourself . To me that is how you truely can do your part to honor our fallen hereos and to honor youself. Are you living to your full potiential? If not what are the consequences of not doing this? (List at least 5) If you are what can be done today to increase your impact? (List at least 5) How much better would you feel when you succeed? What kind of message would living your life send to the people you love? How would living your live this way increase your significance? Be a hero to your heros and take 5 min to answer the questions it could change your life ? God Bless Amen

10 Things You Never Learned

So I was going thru my bookmarks and found something I felt needed to be re posted. Below you will find the answer to the title and the link that explains each in detail but I will tell you this is something good to have handy as a reminder to be better or know that maybe you don't know what you don't know. 1. How to predict consequences 2. How to read 3. How to distinguish truth from fiction 4. How to empathize 5. How to be creative 6. How to communicate clearly 7. How to Learn 8. How to stay healthy 9. How to value yourself 10. How to live meaningfully There you have simple but effective when expanded on continue reading here I know one question was left with which was why doesn't these subjects be honestly addressed by educational system? I don't expect that answered just to provoke thought.

Fail To Succeed

In search of the latest information to bring you. I stumbled across this video and even though it is about an automotive company the message it sends is very simple. You must fail to succeed. The more failure you have the more likely your level of success. So when you watch this video I won't you to keep one thing in mind and this may sound awful however it can be a proven fact. It is thinking like the one this video displays that will help this company unlike it is competition who still use the same business model and wonder why they are having the trouble they are having. So on this wonderful Friday take a few minutes and really look at your life and ask yourself 2 questions. When was the last time I failed ? What 2 action items can I take right now today that might cause me to fail ? Remember success is on the other of discomfort and failure. God Bless Amen

Living The Dream

This is a great video about a Gary Vaynerchuk who decided to just live the dream. I have to say that this is the best explanation of how to use the web to take your life and your business to the next level. His perspective is innovative and motivating.He is really the next big thing and seems like a nice guy to boot. So the question I leave you with is what can you start today to change the world,your life, and what's holding you back. If not today when ?

Writing This Blog

So I decided that I needed a blog to help get some of the thoughts I have out of my head and into the world previously I devoted the site to the discussion of sex and how to be better at it because I am in the process of writing a book about that. However that is not at all I am about I am a guy who is working to live his life the way it should be lived. So I will be updating regularly on my projects,relationships,thoughts,and anything else. I know this much I open looking forward to hearing peoples thoughts as I am always open to discussion.